Thursday, February 18, 2010

Can't We All Just Get Along?

I'm going to try to make this as less of a rant as possible.

Maybe it's because I've been going through a bit of a low period this week due to getting in a fight with a close friend of mine, but I've been seeing so much negativity in the Youtube/Blogger world lately.

Don't get me wrong, I know there's been hate and negative remarks going around for a long time. I've been a participant and observer (wow, Sociology major much? lol) of these communities for almost 2 years (and have been making videos for a little over 1 year) and I am well aware that hate will happen just because it is the internet and some people just have nothing better to do.

I just see so many ridiculous and honestly, stupid, comments all over. Who cares if someone says "um", has moles, spends their hard earned money on products that make them happy, etc. No one would EVER go up to someone on the street and say all these things to someone. I've never had someone look at my bag in Sephora and say "OMG you're buying ALL off that??" I'm sure none of you have had this either. The aspect of anonymity is a big thing on the internet. You're here typing behind a screen where you don't have to look at anyone in the face to show them just how insecure you are about yourself that you have to insult somebody.

Yesterday in particular seemed to be a big day for negativity, in my opinion. Especially with the article by an individual that condemned bloggers and youtubers because they are not professionals (I won't post a link, if you're curious please google it). What so many people forget is that for most of us, this is a HOBBY. It's something I do to relax, interact, and connect with individuals that share my passion for beauty and fashion. Who cares if I say "um", own a lot of makeup, have bad lighting...whatever.

Unless someone is saying something incredibly offensive (I don't see how anything in makeup can be offensive, really) or insulting you in anyway, why say something incredibly pointless? If you don't like a blog/channel/individual in any way, why are you showing them support by subscribing/following yet posting comments meant to hurt them? And even if you just stumbled on the video, why continue watching if you don't share the passion? I just really don't see the point.

Not only is this a hobby, it's a community. The definition of a community is "a social, religious, occupational, or other group sharing common characteristics or interests". If we all share common interests and passions, why not embrace that? If you don't share this passion, why are you participating in the community?

I have been asked by people who want to start their own channel how I "deal with the hate". First of all, it's rare that I get a negative comment. When I do, it's usually from a weirdo that stumbled across my page. What do I do? I LAUGH. I think it's funny whenever someone wastes time from their life to say something that doesn't have an effect on me anyway. Like I said, no one would say such remarks to you in "real life".

If you are afraid of starting videos because you are afraid of hate, DON'T BE! First of all, it's very unlikely you will get hate when you first start out and by the time you get a negative comment, you will have so much support and positive comments from genuine viewers that they will definitely outweigh the one lone person that is looking for attention.

This post isn't directed at any one individual in particular, just a type of individual and the negativity they attempt to spread.

Thank you to everyone that shows me such amazing support (on my youtube, twitter, and on here). Your positivity and love makes this all worth it. Keep being the great, sweet, and gorgeous people you are. <3


Muhsine Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

Keep doing what you are doing girl! Great post! X

Lipstick Rules Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

Hear! Hear! Fantastic post. Well said.

nicole l. Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

beautifully said, you are a eautiful person with a great heart... keep on ignoring the haters they r just jealous and really need to live their own life then sit back and judge somebody elses... but yea again nicely said and i have a lot of respect for you and the other gurus

Anonymous Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

troll hands

Naty1129 Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

I totally agree with you! I had just a few days ago, some girl saying well "why do you cake on foundation/ concealer you're so self conscious" I was like wtf... felt like saying bitch, that's my business. lol All I simply said was "No need to watch my videos, pretty simple ain't it"

Sarah Bella Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

GREAT blog post, hun! I can relate to you on some many levels. The hate is out of control and I really don't understand why people feel the need to point out such stupid and usless things. I get told I say "um" way too much, too. I'd really like to see THEM make a video and try to explain something... and I bet they would say "um" a lot, too. Don't let them get you down... or ignorant people who bash beauty bloggers for blogging about their passions and helping real woman.

SY Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

What you said was very helpful =]

Rina Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

you are simply marvelous and what you do is simply marvelous and for people who don't see that... can simply shove an eyeliner into their eyes cause they just arent that marvelous

love you so much babygirl
keep up the amazing work

Anonymous Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

Ignore everyone that dislikes your videos, 99% of us find it a miracle that a sweet person like you is finding the time to show us lovely things, it proves you honestly are a great person.

keep it up, we may all have our negative days but don't let it get to your mind too much.

resham Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

this is so true...i remember when i started blogging, i was so poor with the HTML coding n understanding everything...I knew i had no readers, i just used to post anything I bought...Haters didn't even spare me...they said I call spending $80 a lot...and she spends more than few hundred $ss at a tym in sephora...i was like..for me 80 bucks is a lot!!! {Period)

someone said my english was bad...huh!1 If my english were good, i wud be writing a Novel and teaching english literature....LOL!!

Anyways, I agree keep doing whatevr you do n love..

r Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

thank you for posting this, well said! i don't understand the hatred, i got my first today but just brushed it off because i know there are so many amazing girls out there that genuinely care. love your channel, twitter, blog etc etc love you girl xo

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